Published by HarperCollins Leadership on March 5, 2019
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"Hollis’s writing is beautifully blunt, and she humbly thanks her fans for her success. Her actionable ideas and captivating voice will encourage women to believe in themselves." - Publisher's Weekly (starred review)
“I believe we can change the world. But first, we’ve got to stop living in fear of being judged for who we are.”
Rachel Hollis has seen it too often: women not living into their full potential. They feel a tugging on their hearts for something more, but they’re afraid of embarrassment, of falling short of perfection, of not being enough.
In Girl, Stop Apologizing, #1 New York Times bestselling author and founder of a multimillion-dollar media company, Rachel Hollis sounds a wake-up call. She knows that many women have been taught to define themselves in light of other people—whether as wife, mother, daughter, or employee—instead of learning how to own who they are and what they want. With a challenge to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams, Hollis identifies the excuses to let go of, the behaviors to adopt, and the skills to acquire on the path to growth, confidence, and believing in yourself.
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❝…in the absence of experience or knowledge, determination makes the difference between where you are and where you want to be.❞
Let me begin by saying that I’ve been a fan and follower of Rachel Hollis for years. I first found her by watching these videos https://youtu.be/uk499VO_wj0 and https://youtu.be/_nTsm5NZiH0 and from there, I started following her blog, YouTube channel, and Facebook page. I love how she’s self-deprecating without appearing to be attention seeking, she’s funny without being campy, and she’s full of wisdom that she doesn’t shove down her readers’ throat. She simply tells her truth and it is up to the reader to agree or disagree, and she’s fine with whichever you choose.
GIRL, STOP APOLOGIZING is the follow-up to GIRL, WASH YOUR FACE (my 5★ review ). It is clear that Hollis is passionate about helping others reach their full potential. “I believe we can change the world. But first, we’ve got to stop living in fear of being judged for who we are.” – Rachel Hollis GSA is engaging and full of inspiring quotes. It was hard to read this and not get fired up.
With GSA, Hollis lays down a road map that will help us achieve the dreams we desire.
The book is set up in three sections. In the first section, Hollis gives us a list of 9 excuses to let go of in the journey of achieving our dreams. In the second section, she lists 7 behaviors (habits) that helped her achieve her goals. The third section, Hollis provides 6 skills or learned abilities that, when practiced, lead us from “thinking” about our dreams to “doing” our dreams.
It is undeniable that Hollis is a great storyteller. She’s very open about her past and journey. She uses many personal examples in this book to explain each of the points she wishes the reader to understand. The problem with this is that the book read more like a memoir than a self-help book. Further, I was confused about how the title GIRL, STOP APOLOGIZING fit. I did, however, understand what Hollis refused to apologize for. She refused to apologize for being a successful businesswoman and not the type of mother that society and others thought she should be. She refused to apologize for all the hard work it took to build her company and the sacrifices she had to make along the way. But as a whole, I had difficulty connecting the title with the contents of the book.
I identified with many of the excuses Hollis mentioned in the book. It was a great moment of self-reflection and that section is covered in a plethora of sticky notes pointing to many “don’t forget this” points. The behavior that stood out to me most was ASK FOR HELP. I don’t like asking for help because I don’t want to be viewed as weak or incapable. I need to flip that script and realize asking for help is a necessary part of life. My favorite section was the Skills section. I felt like this was where the “meat” was, especially the section of Effectiveness. REPLACE YOUR TO-DO LIST WITH A RESULTS LIST. <– powerful, right?
If you want to be motivated to be and do more, if you want tips on how to achieve your dreams, then Girl, Stop Apologizing is a book you need in your arsenal of self-help books.